CBT stands for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. It is a form of psychological intervention that targets our frame of thinking. Giving us a tool to correct our irrational (dysfunctional) thinking into more rational (healthy) thinking. Thus, allowing us an opportunity to correct a dysfunctional lifestyle.
The way it works its so simple, that its amazing. When an event happens, our first thought would be a rational thought. For example, "oh, I didn't do well in my test", "mum just scolded me", or "I just missed the bus." Usually, they would be thoughts that described an event that was just experienced. Following that, our second thoughts, in respective order, "I am going to fail my entire semester", "I am useless", or "why couldn't the driver had waited for me for just one minute more." These thoughts are what sets the stage for our action phase. In the examples given above, depression and anger sets in. This is where CBT seeks to work its wonderful magic here. It helps to change our irrational thoughts into more rational ones. My lecturer hit it home for me when she said one thing; "who died and made you King that the whole world has to serve your wants and needs ?"
I am not sure how many of you have similar experiences, but for me I can now see how I can get stressed, depressed, or all the gamut of what we termed as dysfunctional behaviors and emotions arise. Even though, we do not usually think about it, but we live under the assumption that the world around us, revolves around us, and all things must work the way we need it to be. When things do not work the way we like it to be, we react negatively, and act out accordingly.
Therefore, we need to understand that the world works the way it needs to work. We work the way we need to work. The people around us need to work the way they need to work. When we try to influence the way things work outside of ourselves, unexpected things can happen, and things may not work out the way we planned, expected, or hoped. When we interact with things outside of our sphere of direct influence, weird things can happen, good things can happen too, or nothing happens. We just have to understand and accept the consequences, then move on from there. Dwelling on the consequences will not help us progress, but learning how to accept it and move on will. No one died and made you King, so the world does not revolve around you.
2 comments:
hmm this come at a good time... i do agree that knowing other people also have their own needs creates a whole new level for understanding and harmony, but is there a limit to how much understanding one can do? like how much someone else can tread on your territory and say that,"I needed ur understanding." How much is enuff?
Where is the line?
Think you are missing the point here. You respect others actions and allow them to do whatever they need to do even though it may irk you. You do whatever you need to do, at the same time respecting the rights to action of those around you. You cannot control what others do, but you can control your own reactions and actions. The important thing is to remember that things outside of your circle of influence is beyound your control. You do what you need to do, and you will have to deal with the consequences thereafter. In short, take reponsibility for your own actions. That includes unexpected things that happens as a result of your action/s.
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