Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Love should feel free


I saw this picture and I thought I must share this here.  I feel that many times people mistake love for possession and dominance.  You don't own someone when you love someone. You allow the person whom you love to grow the way they feel it is best for them; even to the point that if they feel they need to leave you, you would still allow it.  Love is not possession, the person you love does not need to be around you for you to love him/her.  In the ideal sense, LOVE is like the love GOD/Buddha/Allah/Jesus/etc have for all of us (regardless of whether you follow their teaching or not, they love each equally).  They do not place any conditions on their love for us, and neither do they expect us to return their love.  THAT is true love !!

Friday, August 3, 2012

Letting go of negative emotions

For the longest time I have a problem in letting go of my negative emotions. I can keep them under control, but it keeps coming up over and over again like a bad dream, or someone suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.  Freudian theory says that repressed emotions will always find a way to express itself, somehow. Ferenczi's Trauma Theory says that trauma is "a fixation of the innervations predominating at the moment of the concussion (of the shock)." "The innervations dominant at the moment of trauma become permanently retained as morbid symptoms and indicate that undischarged parts of the affective impulses are still active in the unconscious". Together they are both talking about the same thing. The energy within that was interrupted from being fully expressed will always find a way to be expressed.  Therefore, repressed anger will eventually erupt like a volcano.

For many years, I have always thought that the best way to keep these negative emotions at bay was to accept it and come to terms with it. Understand what causes it, why it arises, then with understanding and acceptance it should go away. SO NOT HAPPENING !!! I misunderstood the Buddhist teachings. What I was doing was still repressing the negative emotions, denying its existence, assuming that it will go away with time. When Buddha said to nip the cause and the effect ceases, he was right. Our perception was the cause of the negative emotion, we created that emotion. If we stop creating that emotion, then it would not have existed. I did not change my thinking/perception, I understood the cause, and then I repressed the emotion.

So what should I do now that I already have that emotion?  It would not die unless I release that energy; and if I do, depending on what that negative emotion is, all hell might just break loose upon my "peaceful life".  A calm exterior, but a turmoil within.  But I found the key to releasing it, through mindfulness and observation. It works !!  I took my anger, I allowed myself to fully experience that episode of anger but at the same time as I am experiencing the anger I took note of what effect the anger had on my physical body, my mental thoughts, and the outwardly manifestation of behavior (but still not acting out my anger towards anyone, or anything).  For example, as I am going through the episode, I would note that my breathing increased, the rate of breathing increased as well, my heart would pump faster, my body temperature rises, muscles tighten up, heart hurts, and started having angry thoughts that supported the manifestation of the anger.  After it passes, and it will fairly quickly, I felt this HUGE relief coming over me.  Depending on what triggered the episode, it may come back, but each time it returns I go through the same process.  So I allowed myself to experience the full effects that the anger episode brought out, but without having to act it out. I let the locked up energy dissipate by allowing it passage.  

Of course it does not solve the problem why I got angry in the first place, but it sure helps to release it responsibly. I am pretty sure it works the same for all the other negative emotions too.  Most definitely, a change in personal perception (Buddha's way) is still the best method to eradicate negative emotions totally.

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

The Art of Not Being Offended

I take no credit for this post here as the entire post is a cut and paste from this site. I find it very interesting and so I thought I'd share the information.

There is an ancient and well-kept secret to happiness which the Great Ones have known for centuries. They rarely talk about it, but they use it all the time, and it is fundamental to good mental health. This secret is called The Fine Art of Not Being Offended. In order to truly be a master of this art, one must be able to see that every statement, action and reaction of another human being is the sum result of their total life experience to date.
In other words, the majority of people in our world say and do what they do from their own set of fears, conclusions, defenses and attempts to survive. Most of it, even when aimed directly at us, has nothing to do with us. Usually, it has more to do with all the other times, and in particular the first few times, that this person experienced a similar situation, usually when they were young.

Yes, this is psychodynamic. But let’s face it, we live in a world where psychodynamics are what make the world go around. An individual who wishes to live successfully in the world as a spiritual person really needs to understand that psychology is as spiritual as prayer. In fact, the word psychology literally means the study of the soul.
All of that said, almost nothing is personal.

Even with our closest loved ones, our beloved partners, our children and our friends. We are all swimming in the projections and filters of each other’s life experiences and often we are just the stand-ins, the chess pieces of life to which our loved ones have their own built-in reactions. This is not to dehumanize life or take away the intimacy from our relationships, but mainly for us to know that almost every time we get offended, we are actually just in a misunderstanding.

A true embodiment of this idea actually allows for more intimacy and less suffering throughout all of our relationships. When we know that we are just the one who happens to be standing in the right place at the right psychodynamic time for someone to say or do what they are doing—we don’t have to take life personally. If it weren’t us, it would likely be someone else.

This frees us to be a little more detached from the reactions of people around us. How often do we react to a statement of another by being offended rather than seeing that the other might actually be hurting? In fact, every time we get offended, it is actually an opportunity to extend kindness to one who may be suffering—even if they themselves do not appear that way on the surface. All anger, all acting out, all harshness, all criticism, is in truth a form of suffering. When we provide no Velcro for it to stick, something changes in the world. We do not even have to say a thing. In fact, it is usually better not to say a thing.

People who are suffering on the inside, but not showing it on the outside, are usually not keen on someone pointing out to them that they are suffering. We do not have to be our loved one’s therapist. We need only understand the situation and move on. In the least, we ourselves experience less suffering and at best, we have a chance to make the world a better place.

This is also not to be confused with allowing ourselves to be hurt, neglected or taken advantage of. True compassion does not allow harm to ourselves either. But when we know that nothing is personal, a magical thing happens. Many of the seeming abusers of the world start to leave our lives. Once we are conscious, so-called abuse can only happen if we believe what the other is saying. When we know nothing is personal, we also do not end up feeling abused. We can say, “Thank you for sharing,” and move on. We are not hooked by what another does or says, since we know it is not about us.

When we know that our inherent worth is not determined by what another says, does or believes, we can take the world a little less seriously. And if necessary, we can just walk away without creating more misery for ourselves or having to convince the other person that we are good and worthy people.


The great challenge of our world is to live a life of contentment, regardless of what other people do, say, think or believe. The fine art of not being offended is one of the many skills for being a practical mystic. Though it may take a lifetime of practice, it is truly one of the best kept secrets for living a happy life.

By Dr. Jodi Prinzivalli

Friday, June 8, 2012

Dreaming of the new world.....





"When dreaming of new earth let go of all your preconceived ideas. If you want to dream of instant manifestation, do it! If you envision yourself flying, do it! If you see yourself walking through walls, do it! If you see spaceships from everywhere visiting earth or you leaving here to go visit those places – do it! If you see yourself with avatar abilities for you and each person on new earth do it! Dream your wildest dream!" -- Bill Ballard









 What would you do if you were given the opportunity to be part of remaking the world that we live in?  How would you want the world to be like?  How would you want to be like?  Would you still want to be limited by all the scarcity that you see all around us today?


My dream of the new world :-

For the world :
   May peace prevail throughout the lands
   Let safety and security dominate all who live on Earth, no longer would anyone 
     need to fear for their safety or security anymore.
   May everyone regard all others (humans and otherwise) regard all with respect
     reverence, love, compassion, trust and kindness.
   May there be no more scarcity of resources but abundance for all.  No longer will
     there be a need for any competition for resources, or survival of the fittest.  There
     will always be enough for everyone.
   Let greed and selfishness be a thing of the past.
   Let also the need for domination over others dissipate and disappear like smoke 
     in an open field, forever.
   May everyone also forever smell fresh no matter what physical condition they may
     be in.

For myself, I wish :
   I will have the capacity to give love and compassion like the Buddha, or GOD.
   To have a healthy body that will have an above average aesthetic appeal
   To have a healthy body that will be  free from all sickness and ailment
   To have the ability to fly and teleport over long distances (even interstellar). I
      will have no problems traveling through space without any form of protection.
   I will have the ability to move things with my thought (lift very heavy weight even)
   May I have the ability to manifest anything physical (the object may have properties
      beyond just physical properties) with a mere thought, at will.
   Although I will still have a mouth to speak, but I will be able to communicate with
      anyone telepathically with anyone at will, and over any distance and time.
   To never have the need to eat or drink for nutritional intake to stay alive.
   To never have the need to breathe air to stay alive.
   In order to stay alive, all I need is to breathe in the prana/cosmic energy that 
     surrounds  us, and even then I would not need a constant feed; just as and 
     when as needed. Prana/cosmic energy shall be my sustenance (although I will
     still have a nose for olfactory purposes).
   May I also never have the need to defecate, perspire, nor shower to keep clean 
     anymore.  All forms of dirt and filth will just fall off me like how water falls off 
     a duck's back.  Sweat have no more use on me anymore because I would not 
     heat up during rigorous activities.  Defecation will serve no purpose anymore 
     because I would breathe out any waste as harmless air/gas (assuming there is
     still a need for waste output, otherwise no more waste output will be most preferable).
   May I not be affected by heat and cold anymore.  I may still feel temperature
     differences but it will no longer affect me like it affects me in this present 
     3D form.
   Also, to have a body free of anymore lower vibrations accumulated from all
     previous experiences.


There, I have finally put my dream of the future into words.  What would your dreams be?

Saturday, June 2, 2012

Ho'oponopono mantra

In recent days I have come to learn of a very powerful and beautiful mantra that was the product of tribal Hawaii.


(the picture came from this site. If you are interested, a quick visit to the site will tell you more about the mantra.)

I was skeptical at first, but weeks later I tried it on a set of 6 eggs I bought from the supermarket. I spoke the words given above 6 times, with a sincere heart, while holding onto the pack of eggs with both hands, still sitting comfortable in its plastic crate.  The effect was amazing!  The moment I picked up one of the eggs in my left hand, I felt it vibrating very very strongly, like as if I was holding a shard of crystal.  I was floored, and surprised, at the same time.  Who knew those few words could have such a powerful effect.  Which is one of the reasons I am sharing the information.  This means that anyone could use the same method to empower/bless the food that you eat.

Encouraged by the results, I tried it on my body lying on the bed, just before I was going to sleep.  I thought about my body and how much wear and tear it had gone through, all those aches and pains I am feeling from the parts of my body; and thought that I really needed to give thanks to my body for supporting me through thick and thin all these years.  This time, with a calm mind and sincere heart, I said those words 6 times.  Again, the feeling that followed after that felt like a reply from my body that "we have heard your thanks and accepted it, and we will support you til the end of your days."  I felt this tingly sensation echoing throughout my body.  The tingling was especially strong in those areas which had a problem. This tingling sensation felt similar to same feeling I had when I first started meditating (breathing in the prana, or cosmic energy. It has been said that our bodies ache because the flow of prana in that part of the body has been blocked. Meditation clears it up gradually, hence the tingling, which is similar to the feeling of getting pins and needles in your leg when it has remained in a restrictive position for too long).

Monday, May 7, 2012

Right or Wrong action ?

In all of our lives, we are obsessed and preoccupied with always doing the right action/s. But is there really a RIGHT or a WRONG?

An action is just an action on its own, it has no value on its own but an effect after the performance of the action. The culturally, or socially, accepted effect of the action would then cause the action to be labelled as a RIGHT action, but the unacceptable effect of an action will cause the action to be labelled as a WRONG action. Therefore RIGHT and WRONG are only labels we put on something in comparison to another, they are only relative, and there cannot be one without the other. Such as there can be no WRONGs when there is nothing RIGHT.

Let me cite a more grounded example given by Geshe Michael Roach. He gave the example of an Aspirin. We all know that an Aspirin can be used to "kill" a headache. So to someone who took an Aspirin after experiencing a headache to have the pain go away, he/she labels the Aspirin as GOOD medicine for curing headache. To another person who took the Aspirin after experiencing a headache but received no similar relieve in the pain he/she would label it as BAD medicine for curing headache. BUT without the perspective of either person, an Aspirin is just an Aspirin. It is neither GOOD nor BAD.

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

We are NOT alone !



Here are 3 pictures I took while on a trip into the highlands to experience nature. Notice the little specs of things in the picture ?  I can assure you they are NOT dust specs, or water droplets on the lens. At first I thought they were too (and was about to delete the pictures), but later on I realized what I was looking at. I checked my camera lens when I first saw them, and I can assure you they were clean. Those little things are devic energy (ie. presences of devas). Zoom into the pictures and take a closer look at those little things. You will find that each of them have much more definition than what a blurr spec of dust or water droplet will provide.

Do they not remind you of floating "seedlings" in the movie Avatar? Do a little googling on the web for the term "energy ball" and you will find some more pictures of what is shown here. Would this be enough proof that our eyes have limited perceptive powers, and that we are truly not as alone as we think we are? You decide for yourself! Enjoy the pictures.....


Friday, April 20, 2012

Water Blessing

I learnt this from a group that is into spiritual healing as well. I thought this might be useful to share. Take note that I am not the creator of this procedure, I really have no idea who the original creator of it is, but bless him whoever he is for bringing this to us.


Quantum Undulation Healing Method Theory:
1. First, get a glass of drinking water, show your appreciation sincerely to the water.
2. Say to the water your mind/body conditions that's troubling you and ask the water to heal you. When you do so, the structure and undulation of the water is changing. Your sincere thought creates the healing vibration (wave) that changes both the water in the glass and the water in your body. You are now in-tune to the same healing frequency with the water in front of you.
3. Drink half glass of water. Because of your sincere praying, the undulation frequency of the water has been changed by your intention. Now your body is tuned to the healing frequency. The water you drink in has the same frequency as the remaining half in the glass.
4. Begin following the instructions. 5. Drink the remaining half glass of water. The healing frequency is enhanced for the water and for your body because 70% of your body is water . All the frequency of water in your body will be changed now. You are now in a higher vibration which means it's easier to make your wishes come true! Bless all of you!

Instructions:
1. Get a glass of drinking water. Hold the glass with two hands and sincerely say to the water six times: “Pure water, thank you, I love you so much!” Drink half a glass with great respect.
2. Imagine the light of the healing Quantum Undulation get into the half glass water. Imagine there is a beam of light shooting into the glass, then repeat the instructions:
A. Repeat six times sicerely to the water: “Thank you for purifying my body mind and soul .”
B. Repeat six times: “ Thank you for healing my body mind and soul.”
C. Repeat six times: “Thank you for cleansing and healing of our Earth.”

Drink the half glass of water slowly with great respect. Try to feel the cool sensation of this pure water entering your body, purifying every cell in your body. The End.

In addition to this I have also tried another "prayer", in a manner of speaking, or another personal blessing, or wish, or whatever you might want to call it.
I say this 6 times when I am showering, or in any pool of water (like if you were at the waterfall or a stream)
“Pure water, thank you, I love you so much!”
Then I say the following:
"Thank you for healing and purifying the Earth. Please also help heal, purify, and cleanse all that come into contact with you in mind, body, and spirit. Thank you very much."
Try it everyday if you can, or whenever you remember, or get the chance to. All it takes is a few minutes. I don't know if it would have any effect. But if it does, all the better. If not, all I have lost is a few minutes of my time. But I know that if I really believe it will work, it will work. All things are created from the "heart".


Thursday, March 1, 2012

Not my fault. Not my problem.

I suddenly realized the reason why I tend to avoid “messes” that was not created by me, and can be quite defensive about them. The society and culture here (in this case Singapore) has inculcated into us a culture of “finger pointing” and the “blame trap”. When things go wrong, our instinctive reaction would be “who did that?” This happens not only in the work environment, but also at home; especially so at home between parents and their child. Instead of trying to work together with whoever was responsible for the “mess” to try and fix things, or do some damage control; we enter the “blame deflection mode”. This culture is taught to the kids at a very young age, and thus is carried into the very society we live in and it became a culture. As such, when things go wrong at home, if it was not the child’s vault, they tend to adopt an avoidant attitude and not wanting much to do with the whole matter; with the child thinking that it was not their fault and the responsible person should fix the problem. We forget that we are a team, or a family, and should stand together as a unit to fix the mess. Something goes wrong in the household, it may not be my fault, but I will ultimately be affected by any fallout that resulted from the mess. I grew up in such a household, and was the victim of such conditioning. I was learning through observation what my parents were doing, and modeled them accordingly.

The problem here is that such attitudes do not get confined to the household. It carries into the society. That’s probably one of the reasons why it is “everyone for themselves” out in the corporate world, and why the corporate world is so “cold”. We forget that fallout from such “messes” tend to spill over into the entire company, regardless of the size of the “mess”.

Now that I know I was conditioned this way, I can now try to change this attitude. Hopefully, in bringing this to light, others will also see that problem too (if they had one to begin with).

Thursday, February 23, 2012

I want a dog. Not anymore!!!


As a child, I have always wanted to own a pet dog, or a cat. Something warm, fuzzy, and alive that I could play with, and snuggle up to. At that time, I thought it would be really nice to have a cat or a dog as a close buddy, and to experience the kind of unconditional love they would give me. As an adult now, and having the opportunity to take care of my sister's dog for a time period; I realized that it was probably a good thing that I had not owned a pet.

Don't get me wrong here, its not the having to feed it, and cleaning up after it thing that put me off. It just was not everything that I had imagined it would be like.My sister's dog, while I had him, looked up to me as its owner. I fed him, cleaned him, and he loved me back, kept me company, etc. But I did not feel the same thing I thought I would have felt when I have a pet. It felt like I was only doing what was necessary to take care of it, and be responsible for it. I did not get the warm fuzzy feeling that I thought that I would. Why?

After over 2 decades, I finally understood the reason behind it. When I see an animal I do not own, I want to cuddle it, pet it, hug it, play with it. I love it, and want it to be my friend. That is what friends do, they enjoy each others company, take comfort in each other, and love each other. When I own that "friend" the social dynamics change. Friends are what friends are, you don't own "friends". When that friend becomes your property, you take on a dual relationship, and that is why the social dynamics of this social relationship change.

I am not saying that everyone out there is like that, its just how I feel I am like. Yes, I still love most animals (I am reserving some wiggle room here for a small population of animals that may be out there which are just down right repulsive to even consider hugging it). But I only want them to be my friend, I do not want to own them anymore.

Monday, February 13, 2012

Man ! (refering to human beings)


I saw this and I thought I would share.